we are faced with our capacity to be the loving person we wish to be.
Awhile back I heard a sweet story during a Dharma talk. I was sitting in the back row of a Zen Center, and the center’s Chaplin was sharing about her longtime practice, and ” life off the cushion.” The audience sat in rapt attention and stillness... UNTIL, she mentioned the F word, FAMILY. My back row seat afforded me a unique vantage point of the entire room. It was fascinating to witness that people immediately started moving, itching, stretching, and coughing. Just the thought of family moved through the room as a visible wave of discomfort.
As she dove into her story describing a challenging relationship with her parents and the difficulty in being with it, she shared something that offered her peace of mind. When seeking advice from a revered teacher she was surprised to hear what the teacher had discovered in relationship to her parents. She shared with a smile, “Forty years of practice has gained me ten minutes with my parents.” The Chaplin was relieved to realize she was not alone in the struggle to connect open heartedly with those closest to her.
So we are in good company when it comes to courageously facing the behaviors, and issues that persist, as we hold them for our family.
Anytime we gather with family, disturbances and traumas from generations past may show up in a myriad of behaviors and reactions. Yes, you have your memories of holidays past, and additionally, the energetic memories of others live on in you as well. When I factor in the absurd stress that makes up our current cultures observance of this time of year, it sometimes feels like the holidays have become one big trauma field. It is no wonder people get sick, depressed, and suicidal.
We can begin to change that starting right now!
A Family Constellation facilitates shifts on a soul and DNA level. Through transforming our energetic family inheritance we may experience family and our loved ones in an entirely new way. Difficult situations, and behaviors no longer hold a charge, there is no longer a disturbance. In its place a new response is now available; we and those around us feel safer, more loving, and can stand in new found strength. Amazingly the Family Constellation creates shifts in an entire family without anyone else having to be involved. For the first time we may feel included, acknowledged, and whole.
When the past is present in our lives it is showing us there is unconscious love waiting to be transformed to conscious love.
I invite you to ENJOY this season, take a step in gratitude towards an awakened heart and life.
Our lives, our families, our planet needs us at full open hearted loving capacity, now more than ever.
Krista Jarrard is the founder, director of The Center for Systemic Family Constellation Work. She offers Telephone, Skype, Private and Group, and Family Constellations Trainings worldwide . www.FamilyConstellationWork.com