Until we have healed the wounds of the past why would we expect anything to be different?
The truth of the conflict that carries on within us did not originate with us.However it ours to address, if we expect any real change to occur. Racism, sexism, any ism is a schism, a separation, a break of communion, and only a painful out picturing of the problem that has never been looked at, and given its place to heal.
There is much talk that we are going back in time 50 years. My observation is the source goes back much further. Laws may change so that it appears we are evolving, but that doesn't mean we change along with them. Until we have healed the wounds of the past why would we expect anything to be different?
You can be as conscious and spiritual as you wish, but the truth is we are the living future of those that came before us, if anyone in our linage experienced pain, suffering, prejudice, and exclusion (and everyone has) it carries on in us until it is directly addressed.
For solution and healing we have to go to the source, and America is not big on looking back, and never has been. This country was founded on leaving, moving forward, and not looking back, now the consequences of this movement of disconnection is showing up louder, and more disturbingly every day. This is not a judgment, it is the observation that everyone here came from somewhere else except those indigenous to this land.
Just as I listen when I facilitate, when I receive news of this type, I listen, feel, and see who stands behind and "with" the person of focus, who's voice is speaking through that person, whose actions are causing the reaction. This in no way infers that we are not responsible for our actions. We are responsible to take the opportunity to heal our epigenetic inheritance that carries on within us.
Next time you feel shaken, angered, or hopeless by a tragic personal situation in the news, try this exercise from my upcoming Systemic Perspective Immersion Teleclass.
Take the time to center yourself and imagine standing in the family linage three generations behind the person at the center of the event. Who is the real person at the center, is it the victim or the perpetrator? They are both at the center. An important reminder is no one came out of the womb a perpetrator. After you have discerned who are drawn to stand with first, notice how does that ancestor feel in the body, what are sensory responses to being there, are they drawn back, if so follow that movement and look back, what is happening, how do they feel? Are they available to look to the future and see to see their grandchild? How does it feel? Then one by one, stand with everyone involved in story or life situation the same way. Stand at least three generations back. Don't leave anyone out.
If you do this with an open heart and spaciousness I assure you it will at the very least add a new dimension to your perspective if not bring about a healing to your heart and understanding. If this exercise is difficult for you, you are not alone. I can assist you in the process, and facilitate the change you seek.
This is just a peak at the healing available in a Systemic Family Constellation. After 20 years we are still patiently waiting for the US to catch on to this profound work that a great majority of the world has embraced as a powerful healing of the past, in the present, for the future.
I invite you to discover for yourself. Participate in real change, if not now, when?