Krista and her son Shiloh who died at five weeks of age.
On this Mother’s Day, I open a conversation on the topic of Mother.
I understand that for many, mother is a challenging and sometimes
volatile topic.
So, let us illuminate facts to support a better understanding.
No matter how humans try to run, separate, disconnect, or “evolve”
there is no stronger bond on the planet than that of mother and child.
The bond is primal, always present, and will not be denied
.
The bond is present whether it is burdened or blessed.
It just is.
How we receive and experience life flows from this bond.
Knowing this let us take a breath, open our hearts for a moment and imagine:
Mothers who have lost children.
Those who have lost mothers.
Those with strained or no relationship to their mother.
Those with strained or no relationship to their child.
Those who have chosen not to be mothers.
Those yearning and unable to be mothers.
Those that have not been safe as a woman or a mother.
In every female lineage lives the embodied experience of ALL these attributes.
This is true for your mother and your father's female line.
Ultimately whatever our relationship to our mother or mothering, it is our connection to life.
Contrary to how many reference their family we are not an Immaculate Conception, the fact that we all have a mother, and father is the great equalizer of humanity.
Through them we receive life.
When we can stand in the shoes of our mother, grandmother's, and female ancestors our experience of mother transforms, we are humbled, and our hearts open.
Krista's mother with her KinderCare children in Berlin during WWII
I speak from personal experience, before I came to Constellation Work I held painful judgments and feelings for my mother. My first experience with Family Constellations turned everything upside down or I should say right side up, as deeply held thoughts and feelings shifted.
I was stunned to see her strength and embarrassed by my assumptions, and misconceptions.
Consider the events and conditions of my mothers early life; losing her mother when she was two years old, living through WWll in Germany, doing Kindercare in the bomb bunkers, losing her husband, and her older brother in the war, and then leaving her family behind to move to the US for a better life, only a strong woman comes though that with any semblance of connection and warmth.
That is just her experience, what about her mother that died as a young wife, and her father that went through two World wars? What did they carry in their heart, soul, family system, and DNA that was passed down to my mother before she was born?
We never know how it was for another especially if they don’t talk about it, and we humans tend not to talk about difficult and traumatizing events. I most often find the circumstance of life was much more difficult for our parents, grandparents and our ancestors.
So no matter what happens for you when you hear the words Mother or Mother's Day, your response reveals much about your response to life.
The extent of one's resistance and discomfort equals the level of difficulty in giving and receiving the abundance that a life well lived offers. The good news is it also reveals the magnitude of healing just the other side of the resistance.
As you become aware of the hidden aspects of your relationship to your mother you will be reminded of how you are with your mother, is how she was with hers.
Unseen and unhealed, it goes back through the generations with the burden of difficulty becoming heavier in the female line. This is true as we move down to your children as well.
This is the extraordinary work of the Family Constellation, to transform the burden to blessings and the heal mothering that lives at the source of life.
For your Mothers Day I offer, be gentle and kind to yourself.
Healing the mother in us, is a movement of the soul that evolves over time.
If you chose to open yourself and engage it will transform lifetimes.
Happy Mother’s Day,
Krista
May 9th 2021
Krista Jarrard has been a dynamic facilitator, trainer and pioneer in the evolution of the Systemic Constellations. Krista brings a deep intuition and remarkable scope of embodied wisdom to her practice with clients worldwide.
In this intimate and experiential session, Krista brings 18 years of experience with Constellations to work empathically, and somatically with the systemic principles of belonging and inclusion to access the healing movements and solutions available when your family and ancestral inheritance is transformed.
FamilyConstellationWork.com
In this intimate and experiential session, Krista brings 18 years of experience with Constellations to work empathically, and somatically with the systemic principles of belonging and inclusion to access the healing movements and solutions available when your family and ancestral inheritance is transformed.
FamilyConstellationWork.com
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