WHAT IS A SYSTEMIC FAMILY CONSTELLATION?
The Constellation..Accessing the Morphogenic Field
Systemic or Family Constellation Work operate to reveal deep and healing resolution through an intimate experiential process and may be done in a private consultation, Telephone Constellation or most often in a group workshop setting. In addition to Bert Hellinger's "Orders of Love", we are working with the morphogenic, or “knowing field”. This field, as identified by biophysicist Rupert Sheldrake, as the place which holds the record or information pattern of our entire family system, is similar to the way in which we inherit the DNA structure from our forebears. This energetic informational field "knows" the deep down realities of the family system and contains not only the deep-seated wounds, but the mode of healing, as well.
The Longing for Belonging
To be seen, acknowledged, and belong is our greatest longing. This deep longing for belonging guides our life. As part of the family, everyone has the right to belong. Even though we live in such individualistic times, the soul still honors the realities of the tribe. We like to believe that we can choose whom and what to acknowledge, and what not. It is possible, but the price will have to be paid, usually by later generations. The family soul does not rest until every member and event is fully included again.
"When there has been a trauma or someone in the family system has been excluded, forgotten, cast out, or suffered a difficult fate, someone of the following generations unconsciously and invariably will step in and bring the lost member's destiny back through living it out in this lifetime effecting us in ways in which we have no understanding. It happens out of a deep but hidden loyalty out of the secret law that will not allow anyone of a family system being denied the right to belong. It is a love so deep that the family member may unconsciously choose to die, rather than "betray" the family bond." ..Bert Hellinger
Setting up a Constellation "Blind"
As a working participant in a Systemic Constellation the client would have an issue of heart seeking of resolution. A brief interview with the facilitator regarding events, and facts of the family allows the facilitator a level of discernment to determine the roles to be represented.
Krista Jarrard's specializes in "Blind Constellations" in this unique approach the interview is done privately, outside of the group circle. This allows for the greatest freedom from projection on the part of all participants, and spaciousness for the movements of the soul.
The client will choose from the group, people to "represent" the person or state being worked with in the Constellation. The client will set up the representatives, as it feels right to them, in the sacred circle, or “the field”.
It is extraordinary but true, that from the time the Representatives are placed in The Constellation they will become in touch with the true energetic of the the inner reality of the person or state they stand for. They may begin to experience feelings and thoughts, moods and even physical sensations of what they represent.
This will lead the facilitator to the original cause for the block of love and acceptance even though it may be many generations ago, and totally unknown. As The Constellation progresses, the needs of the soul emerge, and the gestures and sentences of healing present themselves.
Step by step through simple words and demonstrations of honor and acknowledgment the entanglements and blocks are revealed and restored to strength and love. This movement allows the client to embrace their true potential to live a full and vital life and follow their unique individuality without being burdened and caught by what went on before. This release carries a healthier sense of family strength and individual freedom, and a profound sense of relief.
Moving Throughout the System..Healing available to all involved
Remarkably this renewed flow of love and acceptance is experienced by not only the client, but also by other members of their family system. The solutions in The Constellation move out through the family system without other family members needing to be present.
Sources for Systemic Issues
- Loss of a parent or sibling due to divorce, separation, adoption, death, surrogacy, secrecy,
- Inability to bond with parent due to: complications at birth, prolonged separation in early childhood, arranged marriage, or emotional unavailability
- Loss of child due to: abortion, miscarriage, stillbirth, death, secrecy, artificial insemination, surrogate birth
- Tragic or sudden death, accident or serious illness of family members
- Disrespect or exclusion of family members due to: divorce, separation, handicap, ill deed, sexual or religious preference, ethnicity
- Participation in war, injustice or crime ~ Separation from country of origin or land