I am writing this morning in response to experiencing my normal interactions with two friends today to be anything but normal. Both people where very activated, and having no awareness of why that was the case. Both are highly sensitive folks as well. It is a good to be mindful of all you encounter and what is alive in the collective field on this September 11, 2013. Every year we pass through the energetic trauma field of September 11. Over time it has dissipated but it is still ever present in the morphogenic field of this date. This year it feels to be much stronger since we are already in a activated state with the Pluto /Uranus square that we have been, and will continuing to be engaged with collectively, and in our own way. The body remembers what the mind forgets. From the Systemic Perspective this is my offering for honoring this day: Remember to resource yourself in ways that best serves you, allow your ancestors to be there for you. Be aware if you are having feelings that are not your own, get grounded and give them back. Include everything, exclude nothing, and bring extra love, understanding and awareness to all your encounters to begin creating a new energetic resonance to this day. Remember you have these tools, others may not, so share lovingly.
The effects of war are always present with us. Someday we may realize the consequences that reverberate through every generation that follows. We see this consistently in the practice of Family Constellation Work. A few years ago I had the opportunity to work with clients in Japan, at the invitation of The Knowing School in Tokyo, and had a profound experience that I would like to share on this Peace Day and Anniversary of the atomic bombing of Japan.
It was a expansive experience to work with issues unique to the culture of Japan. It has endured natural disasters and wars that show up time and time again in our Constellations. The great Earthquake of 1923, separation from family and country, participation in WWII, and the atomic bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki, all showed up in a substantial portion of the Constellations that I have performed for Japanese clients there, and in the US.
I had a knowing that I would be doing one very significant Constellation for the atomic bombing of WWII. It was the last Constellation of the last workshop with a wonderful client whose family was from Hiroshima. The client's presenting issue felt very connected to the great loss experienced by her family over two generations ago.
I felt the magnitude of the Constellation as I set it up and it began to unfold. Over the hour and half we were immersed in one of the most memorable and moving Constellations of my 13 year career. We worked in a deep silence, as one by one, participants where added to the circle as the need emerged. Representatives for the family of the client, and the lost and dead relatives and community, someone to represent (in this case) the” bomber”, someone for America, and someone for Japan, and lastly the “bomber s“ parents. Over time the huge Constellation circle was filled with all those that needed to be seen and included. Only 2 or 3 participants where left seated.
The first movement of opening came from representatives of the clients family as they, burdened with grief moved to “see” those they lost, the movement continued as the family was “seen” by the “bomber” who had to be supported by his family, and country that he had been in service to. For those representing the dead all were not at peace, each had to be acknowledged separately and allowed to make a peaceful transition. One did not come to peace. It appears to die a sudden death does not allow a serene passage for the soul. Ultimately America and Japan “saw” each other. A strong feeling of peace overcame the circle, and we felt complete. But the circle kept moving, amazingly the Constellation continued with a very slow movement of America seeing everyone and moving towards Japan. America continued its movement towards the Japanese side of the circle, finally come to a stop at the foot of the one restless dead. With that movement the dead came to final rest. Now the peace was complete as America stood with the dead facing Japan. We stood in silence occupying this rarefied space for a long while as the healing moved out into the room and beyond.
I will never forget the feeling of openness, relief and strength of my client and the Representatives for her family. I closed the circle with the assistance of my wonderful interpreter Yuriko. As a first generation American on my mother’s side, born in Germany, and my American father in the service in WWII, I was well aware of everything moving within myself as well. For the first time ever I found it difficult to speak the words of closure in releasing back to the client. We were seated and rested in the energies that where moving out from the heart of the now unified circle to my client, her family and out into the world. We took a short break to get fresh air, and eat and breathe.
Upon returning I could feel many where not complete in the group as we took our seats back in the circle. Much was moving indeed. My client was doing marvelous, and expressed her profound gratitude, and joy. Others in the circle where having deep responses to what had just transpired. As I shared a little of what we had just experienced the consensus was surprise that one could be so moved and affected by that which they had no direct experience. It is important to note, I set up every Constellation blind, meaning no one knows the issue. The only people that knew who they were representing where the Reps for the client and her parents.
One by one I brought the participants that needed assistance to me to facilitate what was moving with them. Eventually bringing in an ancestor that could help, to stand behind them and sit next to them as they returned to their seat. One woman who was not in the Constellation found she was feeling very emotional, and shared her family was from Nagasaki. She was amazed that she would have such a strong response and be affected by something that happened so long ago. After I placed in support behind her as she sat next to me, I explained to her and the group once again our connection to our families run deep and all pervading, and that the love and the trauma is passed genetically. Everyone one in the group now had a visceral experience, and healing of that fact. The woman calmed and opened with that information and support as she returned to her seat in the circle.
I reminded the group when we do this work it is not only a personal transformation but we are participating in a global healing. I closed the workshop that day moved beyond words and deeply altered. I wanted to write about the experience but only now on this anniversary date of the atomic bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki do the details come back to me of that Constellation we did that moved out into the collective field to be part of a healing whose time has come.
The effects of war are always present with us. May we someday realize the consequences that reverberate through every generation that follows.
It is only a few generations ago that any“abnormal” attribute could be considered grounds for a person to be institutionalized. This occurrence was not uncommon in an era when mental disorders were a shame on the family. A family member could be sent away without their consent, for almost anything, many never to be seen or spoken of again. We see in Family Constellation Work these excluded ones have an impact in our current lives.
This poignant photographic exhibition, The Willard Suitcase Project by Jon Crispin has me reflecting on a Telephone Constellation I did last week. My client had “felt shut out, and unseen” all of their life. The Constellation revealed a grandmother that had been set away for being “unusual” and, further work showed us that the grandmothers “craziness” was connected to an ancestor that was left behind when the family was forced to leave their homeland.
These facts can be sad to hear and see, but there is nothing like Systemic Constellation Work for developing deep compassion for the unseen and unheard by standing in the others shoes ..all the others. The outcome of the work is healing the clients current issue at a source that would not be found otherwise.
It may seem surprising that a person being sent to a mental institution a generation or two back could have any connection with current issues of depression, a child’s illness, or a spouse’s ability to experience intimacy.From the Systemic perspective we know from years of experience those that have been excluded will be “represented” later in the family, and show up in any manner of current issue. It is only a few generations ago that anything “abnormal” was grounds to be institutionalized. This occurrence was not uncommon in an era when mental disorders were a shame on the family, to the point that overcrowding was always an issue. A family member could be sent away without their consent, for almost anything many never to be seen or spoken of again.
Jon Crispin’s touching photographic project is getting attention as it shows in venues around the country. He writes “I never got over the idea that there were people here without their consent, largely because they were having problems that today we would be able to treat — grief, obsessiveness, Asperger’s, Depression, Epilepsy - having seizures - was grounds for lifelong commitment. Young women who were promiscuous, gays and lesbians and mothers who couldn't get over the grief of losing a child in three months or less could all be subject to commitment” His work is a gift allowing us to see, and remember these members of a society that where shut away.
Every family has something that is affecting later generations. Systemic Family Constellation Work creates the sacred space that gives everyone their proper place in the family allowing the current generation to thrive in peace and wholeness.
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Quite often I am asked about past lifes; Is that what we are addressing in a Family Constellation. It is rare that we would to look a past lifes to begin our work. There is so much in our families it never fails to amaze me. Many clients are repeating exact life patterns of an ancestor. Parents, grandparents, ancestors literally live on in our minds, bodies and lives. So most often we need look no further that our familial past for the healing and answers to some of lifes most challenging issues. That being said, upon occasion after doing Family Constellation Work a past life situation will come to light. It becomes uniquely clear to me if that is the case, if so, I then would do a past life Constellation in the same manner, following my guidance in connection to what is brought to light in the Constellation circle. No matter if a current issue has its source in the family linage or a past life, the Constellation process releases conflict, and transforms a burden into a blessing, allowing one to connect with the strength, and brilliance of the past.
The video is a fascinating testimony to the journey of this sweet soul and his connection to a specific past life.
Recently I received these kind words and wonderful news from a client I have worked with over the past few years.
“I was introduced to the Systemic Constellation Work by a very dear friend. I went to the Family Constellation Workshop with an open mind to create mental health in my family as my two sons were diagnosed with Schizophrenia and my brother had been diagnosed with this illness more than 25 years ago. Under Krista’s expert guidance in the Constellation process we worked through the pain and suffering my ancestors had experienced in WWII. Shortly after the workshop things started changing with my children and my brother. Today, three years later, both of my sons are doing very well, attending college and are fairly well adjusted. One of them has not taken medications for over two years. My brother has been communicating with us for approximately two years now as he has been willing to take medication. My brother tells he had gone on a long 25 year trip somewhere and is now back. I am so grateful that I was introduced to this amazing work. Thank you Krista for your gift in facilitating, and giving me back my family”… Albuquerque, New Mexico
_This testimonial reminded me of one of my early experiences of working with Bert Hellinger many years ago. The training was a five day intensive on "Psychosis in the Family." It was an extraordinary experience to say the least. Day after day, client after client we saw the same hidden dynamics revealed in the Constellations. Someone in the client’s family linage had experienced a difficult fate, usually a murder. This lead to someone in the current generation identified with both the victim and the perpetrator, causing a deep inner conflict, and carrying the burden of Schizophrenia, Bi Polar or possibly Autism.
“Schizophrenia is a family issue that goes through several generations. Schizophrenia is not a personal issue- it affects the whole family. You need only work with a member of the family, not the schizophrenic person. The main influence comes from those that were excluded. If you look at schizophrenia as an ill person, you cannot help. The system has an unresolved issue of murderer and victim. When the murderer and victim are both excluded, they are represented in one person. A schizophrenic person does service to the family out of a deep love. This deep love can point to resolution. The solution works for all members of the family.” Bert Hellinger
You may wonder how this is possible, that it could show up so often. But considering we are only a few generations from WWII and just a generation from the Vietnam War, and every conflict that has followed, it becomes much easier to understand. A few generations back, life was very different, people carried guns as a way of life, and accidents happened, people where run over by farm equipment, machinery, cars, and trains. I have worked with them all. In every case the perpetrator (even by accident) must be seen and included. It is profound.. and it is this movement that brings peace and resolution to the family.I am continuously heartened and humbled by the depth and scope of this work, and its effect on those courageous enough to allow the truth to come to light, unburdening loved ones, and offering new opportunities to participate in life
__ A child's severe allergies connected to the murder of a great grandfather.
Unexplained depression and chronic health problems,
a soul response to a family leaving their homeland three generation past.
Life-long anger related to violence in the family four generations ago.
__Systemic Constellations are changing peoples lives for the better, when so much else has failed. Science is fast approaching an understanding of why this cutting-edge work is having profound effects n people's lives world wide. This new understanding is coming through the fascinating study of epigenetics. The BBC documentary, Ghost in your Genes tells the story of how biology stands on the brink of a shift in the understanding of inheritance. The discovery of epigenetics - hidden influences upon the genes - that affect every aspect of our lives. At the heart of this new field is a simple but extraordinary idea - that genes have a 'memory'. This is leading to scientific evidence that the lives of ancestors affect us directly. We are more than individuals, we the sacred vessels of genetic memories, including events, difficult fates, and traumas.
In a Systemic Family Constellation when the unseen are seen, and a simple truth is spoken, and felt in the body, there is a soul movement, issues find resolution, and slowly dissolve. Amazingly the work we do in the Constellation moves beyond the client, effecting change throughout the family system.
This work is at the forefront of a paradigm shift in scientific thinking. It will change the way the lives of ancestors are viewed, as well as the importance of lifestyles and family relationships. What people do no longer just affects themselves, but can determine the health of their children and grandchildren in decades to come. "We are," as Marcus Pembrey says, "all guardians of our genome."
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I feel blessed to facilitate Systemic Family Constellations for the past twenty years. I bow to the mystery of the soul that unfolds and reveals the love that is brought to light.