I am writing this morning in response to experiencing my normal interactions with two friends today to be anything but normal. Both people where very activated, and having no awareness of why that was the case. Both are highly sensitive folks as well. It is a good to be mindful of all you encounter and what is alive in the collective field on this September 11, 2013. Every year we pass through the energetic trauma field of September 11. Over time it has dissipated but it is still ever present in the morphogenic field of this date. This year it feels to be much stronger since we are already in a activated state with the Pluto /Uranus square that we have been, and will continuing to be engaged with collectively, and in our own way. The body remembers what the mind forgets. From the Systemic Perspective this is my offering for honoring this day: Remember to resource yourself in ways that best serves you, allow your ancestors to be there for you. Be aware if you are having feelings that are not your own, get grounded and give them back. Include everything, exclude nothing, and bring extra love, understanding and awareness to all your encounters to begin creating a new energetic resonance to this day. Remember you have these tools, others may not, so share lovingly.
Until we have healed the wounds of the past why would we expect anything to be different?
Have you ever considered with all the disturbing news and events that populate our lives that we may be looking in the wrong direction for answers. Response and reaction runs the gamut of human emotion, which tend to distract from something essential beyond the pain. For myself I have to sit with everything that is present in the situation, and find my place in it all. I am aware I can get caught, and lose my center for a moment. It is only when I allow myself the spaciousness to include everything that I come to a level of understanding. For me that understanding is available through the Systemic Perspective. When I see today's disturbing events I see how they have their origins in yesterday's unresolved trauma.
The truth of the conflict that carries on within us did not originate with us.However it ours to address, if we expect any real change to occur. Racism, sexism, any ism is a schism, a separation, a break of communion, and only a painful out picturing of the problem that has never been looked at, and given its place to heal.
There is much talk that we are going back in time 50 years. My observation is the source goes back much further. Laws may change so that it appears we are evolving, but that doesn't mean we change along with them. Until we have healed the wounds of the past why would we expect anything to be different?
You can be as conscious and spiritual as you wish, but the truth is we are the living future of those that came before us, if anyone in our linage experienced pain, suffering, prejudice, and exclusion (and everyone has) it carries on in us until it is directly addressed.
For solution and healing we have to go to the source, and America is not big on looking back, and never has been. This country was founded on leaving, moving forward, and not looking back, now the consequences of this movement of disconnection is showing up louder, and more disturbingly every day. This is not a judgment, it is the observation that everyone here came from somewhere else except those indigenous to this land.
Just as I listen when I facilitate, when I receive news of this type, I listen, feel, and see who stands behind and "with" the person of focus, who's voice is speaking through that person, whose actions are causing the reaction. This in no way infers that we are not responsible for our actions. We are responsible to take the opportunity to heal our epigenetic inheritance that carries on within us.
Next time you feel shaken, angered, or hopeless by a tragic personal situation in the news, try this exercise from my upcoming Systemic Perspective Immersion Teleclass.
Take the time to center yourself and imagine standing in the family linage three generations behind the person at the center of the event. Who is the real person at the center, is it the victim or the perpetrator? They are both at the center. An important reminder is no one came out of the womb a perpetrator. After you have discerned who are drawn to stand with first, notice how does that ancestor feel in the body, what are sensory responses to being there, are they drawn back, if so follow that movement and look back, what is happening, how do they feel? Are they available to look to the future and see to see their grandchild? How does it feel? Then one by one, stand with everyone involved in story or life situation the same way. Stand at least three generations back. Don't leave anyone out.
If you do this with an open heart and spaciousness I assure you it will at the very least add a new dimension to your perspective if not bring about a healing to your heart and understanding. If this exercise is difficult for you, you are not alone. I can assist you in the process, and facilitate the change you seek.
This is just a peak at the healing available in a Systemic Family Constellation. After 20 years we are still patiently waiting for the US to catch on to this profound work that a great majority of the world has embraced as a powerful healing of the past, in the present, for the future.
I invite you to discover for yourself. Participate in real change, if not now, when?
It is only a few generations ago that any“abnormal” attribute could be considered grounds for a person to be institutionalized. This occurrence was not uncommon in an era when mental disorders were a shame on the family. A family member could be sent away without their consent, for almost anything, many never to be seen or spoken of again. We see in Family Constellation Work these excluded ones have an impact in our current lives.
This poignant photographic exhibition, The Willard Suitcase Project by Jon Crispin has me reflecting on a Telephone Constellation I did last week. My client had “felt shut out, and unseen” all of their life. The Constellation revealed a grandmother that had been set away for being “unusual” and, further work showed us that the grandmothers “craziness” was connected to an ancestor that was left behind when the family was forced to leave their homeland.
These facts can be sad to hear and see, but there is nothing like Systemic Constellation Work for developing deep compassion for the unseen and unheard by standing in the others shoes ..all the others. The outcome of the work is healing the clients current issue at a source that would not be found otherwise.
It may seem surprising that a person being sent to a mental institution a generation or two back could have any connection with current issues of depression, a child’s illness, or a spouse’s ability to experience intimacy.From the Systemic perspective we know from years of experience those that have been excluded will be “represented” later in the family, and show up in any manner of current issue. It is only a few generations ago that anything “abnormal” was grounds to be institutionalized. This occurrence was not uncommon in an era when mental disorders were a shame on the family, to the point that overcrowding was always an issue. A family member could be sent away without their consent, for almost anything many never to be seen or spoken of again.
Jon Crispin’s touching photographic project is getting attention as it shows in venues around the country. He writes “I never got over the idea that there were people here without their consent, largely because they were having problems that today we would be able to treat — grief, obsessiveness, Asperger’s, Depression, Epilepsy - having seizures - was grounds for lifelong commitment. Young women who were promiscuous, gays and lesbians and mothers who couldn't get over the grief of losing a child in three months or less could all be subject to commitment” His work is a gift allowing us to see, and remember these members of a society that where shut away.
Every family has something that is affecting later generations. Systemic Family Constellation Work creates the sacred space that gives everyone their proper place in the family allowing the current generation to thrive in peace and wholeness.
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Quite often I am asked about past lifes; Is that what we are addressing in a Family Constellation. It is rare that we would to look a past lifes to begin our work. There is so much in our families it never fails to amaze me. Many clients are repeating exact life patterns of an ancestor. Parents, grandparents, ancestors literally live on in our minds, bodies and lives. So most often we need look no further that our familial past for the healing and answers to some of lifes most challenging issues. That being said, upon occasion after doing Family Constellation Work a past life situation will come to light. It becomes uniquely clear to me if that is the case, if so, I then would do a past life Constellation in the same manner, following my guidance in connection to what is brought to light in the Constellation circle. No matter if a current issue has its source in the family linage or a past life, the Constellation process releases conflict, and transforms a burden into a blessing, allowing one to connect with the strength, and brilliance of the past.
The video is a fascinating testimony to the journey of this sweet soul and his connection to a specific past life.
__ A child's severe allergies connected to the murder of a great grandfather.
Unexplained depression and chronic health problems,
a soul response to a family leaving their homeland three generation past.
Life-long anger related to violence in the family four generations ago.
__Systemic Constellations are changing peoples lives for the better, when so much else has failed. Science is fast approaching an understanding of why this cutting-edge work is having profound effects n people's lives world wide. This new understanding is coming through the fascinating study of epigenetics. The BBC documentary, Ghost in your Genes tells the story of how biology stands on the brink of a shift in the understanding of inheritance. The discovery of epigenetics - hidden influences upon the genes - that affect every aspect of our lives. At the heart of this new field is a simple but extraordinary idea - that genes have a 'memory'. This is leading to scientific evidence that the lives of ancestors affect us directly. We are more than individuals, we the sacred vessels of genetic memories, including events, difficult fates, and traumas.
In a Systemic Family Constellation when the unseen are seen, and a simple truth is spoken, and felt in the body, there is a soul movement, issues find resolution, and slowly dissolve. Amazingly the work we do in the Constellation moves beyond the client, effecting change throughout the family system.
This work is at the forefront of a paradigm shift in scientific thinking. It will change the way the lives of ancestors are viewed, as well as the importance of lifestyles and family relationships. What people do no longer just affects themselves, but can determine the health of their children and grandchildren in decades to come. "We are," as Marcus Pembrey says, "all guardians of our genome."
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I feel blessed to facilitate Systemic Family Constellations for the past seventeen years. I bow to the mystery of the soul that unfolds and reveals the love that is brought to light.